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***Important Conversations*** Draw Hearts, Not Lines (5/3/14)

***Important Conversations***

Last semester, my RA posted in our building one of those exercises people post when they want to the residents to get to know each other. The post said, “What is one of your aspirations?” (or something of the sort). I wrote”, “I want to be able to help fund/support as many transgender-specific transitions as possible (ie. therapy, hormones, surgeries, etc)” and went back to my room. Another day, I came into my building with a friend and saw that someone drew an arrow to what I wrote and wrote, “That’s gay.” I was so pissed off that I grabbed the marker and started to draw really heavy, stark lines through what they wrote. But before I could finish, my friend grabbed the marker and said very kind and gently, “Hey there, lines are so harsh” and proceeded to draw hearts over where I drew lines over the message. “There we go,” she said, same tone, and then put the marker down and motioned for me to move on past the post.

Her action in that moment has stuck with me since then and showed me a truth, love and wisdom that I didn’t even imagine could be so simply shown and felt. That poster that had once shown ignorance, disrespect and harm was then covered with what to me looked like Love.

I think about this now as I think about how close I am to surgery which brings me closer to being able to help support other people like me throughout their transitions (whether it be supplying my binders to people who need them or assisting in them getting hormones or helping fund their surgeries or whatever).

I think about this now as I think about all the ignorance and backlash that I and other trans & gender non-confirming people have and still do face.

And I think about how important it is for me to continue to choose love even in the face of hate. To not let someone else’s negative feelings of me deteriorate my character and my perceptions of who I am and the potential goodness of the world around me. I can acknowledge that I can be angry at ignorance, I can be sad at ignorance, I can be hurt by ignorance yet my reaction does not have to be harmful in defense.

Love can do so much more for than hate and harm ever could or will. Through her love, truth and wisdom, I learned this to be true. I remember this and feel refreshed and reborn ❤

In remembering this moment, I want to extend a thank you and deep appreciation for you Inanna for choosing love in that moment and showing me even the little things we do, like drawing hearts rather than lines, can make large, transformational impacts in changing minds and evolving spirits.

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The Art of Getting By by Quinn Kelley (4/4/14)

Thank you Quinn Kelley for yesterday’s Diamondback article “The Art of Getting By”! I feel like she did an overall amazing job with the article, should definitely take a look:

The Art of Getting By by Quinn Kelley (4/4/14)

I think it is so paramount to continue to have these conversations about the lives of Transgender people. In a realm we’re here to learn about difference people’s lived experiences as well as our own, I am glad that there are people such as her who truly do life up the voices of those who sometimes struggle to be heard. I am so humbled and honored to be a part of this story and that my voice was one of the voices to be lifted up ❤ I am also SO HAPPY that Luke Jensen, Nick Sakurai, Erin Iverson, Penny Jacobs and so many other pivital people had their voices heard for they have been astounding in the process of making this campus more accepting and more safe for ALL students regardless of gender (and sexual orientation). I have no doubt that we will all continue to progress and move forward and build up this community!

(P.S. – Maryland Protections for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Folk! Woooot Wooooot!!! :D)

WHY ARE PEOPLE SO AFRAID OF NAKEDNESS? by Dr. Lashay Harvey

WHY ARE PEOPLE SO AFRAID OF NAKEDNESS? by Dr. Lashay Harvey

Thank you for putting such important, truthful, powerful words out into the universe! I don’t understand the disgust with nudity. I respect that people don’t personally wish to be nude in public but I don’t appreciate the constant demeaning of people’s bodies (especially when you turn around and want to use that body for your own sexual gratitude). I believe the body is an art, a masterpiece willed to be formed and transformed by the soul within the body. All our masterpieces look and feel different yet to inherently believe that one is better than other is exactly the type of body-shaming that perpetuates the practices you mentioned above (ie. butt injections). Nudity is powerful and beautiful and natural. We were born nude, what changed is that clothes and such were placed on us and we believed this to be the only way of interacting with the public and the world outside of sex. When no, that’s not true. Either way, we have our own comforts but to say that someone’s comfortability with nudity or attempt to become comfortable with their own body through nudity is disgusting or weird or inherently bad is just bullshit. That’s my opinion.

I want to apologize to all the women i have called beautiful
before i’ve called them intelligent or brave
i am sorry i made it sound as though
something as simple as what you’re born with
is all you have to be proud of
when you have broken mountains with your wit from now on i will say things like
you are resilient, or you are extraordinary
not because i don’t think you’re beautiful
but because i need you to know
you are more than that

Rupi Kaur (via creatingaquietmind)

People tend to think that anger and certain other emotions aren’t acceptable or are bad for you. Sometimes being angry is justified and helpful. What you do with that anger, how you express it, and how you let it affect you and for how long is what’s important. Anger and other ‘negative’ emotions are natural human experiences and it upsets me when people say you shouldn’t let yourself feel them. It’s important to find healthy ways of dealing with the emotions but denying them outright seems very wrong to me. Just my personal philosophy on the subject

Katie Rhu

Get Rid of the Double Standard (2/21/14)

Get rid of the double standard saying fathers who stay home with their kids are valiant and mothers who stay home with their kids are common. Get rid of the double standard saying the mothers who go to work are irresponsible and fathers who go to work are dedicated. Both in either situation are doing what they need to (or feel they need to) do for their families and should be commended for putting in that effort. Stay at Home Mothers are Important. Stay at Home Fathers are Important. Working Mothers are Important. Working Fathers are Important. Plus if it ain’t ya family, it’s honestly none of ya business. If you not trynna spread positivity and support into their household then get the fuck out of their home.

Listen to Our Young People (2/21/14)

So to help solve problems that our younger generations are having, it is extremely important and crucial that we hear what they have to say. Like I’m not sure how there are conversations about how to improve institutions for young people without even knowing how it effects them. I know that the common narrative is “young people don’t know how to think for themselves” but has anyone ever considered that it is because there are not many opportunities where we ALLOW them to think for themselves (?) Young people are much smarter than they are given credit for – mistakes and triumphs alike. Young people are looking to be heard, so listen up!

XO: The Need for Self-Love in Spreading Light (2/15/14)

Remixed another Beyoncé song. This time I did XO which I believe is a truly beautiful song by Beyoncé 🙂

So I tried to post this on Valentine’s Day but now that I’ve finished recording the song, I think it has significant purpose in not making it to my page on V-Day. I like to think it shows how important it is to Love Everyday  ❤

Once again, this video is long but it’s worth the length (in my eyes) so all I can ask is that you bear with me hahaha I did skip over some lines in the song because I thought I was off rhythm but I just had to keep going. The lyrics are provided below though so you can follow along.

Hope you all enjoy! ^^

Lyrics:

[Verse 1]
Love is bright as ever
Even in the shadows
I should love me
Before I shine my love out
My Heart is glowing
and I’m seeing my truth
I should love me
Before I shine my love out
Before I shine my love out
Love brings my light out

[Pre-Hook]
In the darkest night hour [in the darkest night hour]
I stay true to self [I stay true to self]
When love is all of me
My light covers everything
When I shine my love out
When I shine my love out
I won’t turn my light out

[Verse 2]
Now is good as ever
Ooh, don’t leave time to wasting
I need to love me
Before I blind my light out
Mmm yeah…
I took a look inside me
My heart and I are engaging
Oh, and I love me, me
while I shine my love out
No more blinding light out
Love and Light is me now

[Pre-Hook]
In the darkest night hour [In the darkest night hour]
I stay true to self [I stay true to self]
When love is all of me
My light covers everything
When I shine my love out
When I shine my love out
I won’t turn my light out

[Hook]
I love me like “Yes” Oh
Self-love is like this Oh
Love fills me wit Light Oh
I love me like “Yes” Oh
All that I need
is here inside of me
while I shine my love out
while I shine my love out
As I spread my light out

[Break]

[Pre-Hook]
In the darkest night hour [in the darkest night hour]
I stay true to self [I stay true to self]
When love is all of me
My light covers everything
When I shine my love out
When I shine my love out
I won’t turn my light out

-End-

With Love & Affirmation,

Myke